Saturday, March 20, 2010

Home Sweet Home

I'm back at home and all is well in the world again.

Charlie gave me a enthusiastic greeting with lots of hugs and kisses, so I was happy with that :-)

I was wondering during the trip what would be signs of healthy attachment and what would be signs of not being attached....

If Charlie cried a lot while I was gone, is that a good sign or a bad sign? If she doesn't cry at all, does that mean she's not attached properly?

What ended up happening was she would cry for a little while after seeing me on Skype, but was easily distracted. She asked for me a few times, but didn't dissolve into paroxysms of grief.

My un-professional opinion is that is pretty healthy.

I think the week long experiment went well and I'll be confident to leave her in the future when I need to do work related trips. Luckily that is only once a year.

Do you leave your kids? For how long and how do they do with that?

Here is an ADORABLE adoption video.... for those who claim "adoption is unnatural". It may be "unnatural", but all kinds of species do it, so that kind of argues that it IS natural.


Anonymous said...

So Charlie did was it for you? What you expected? I haven't left my kids overnight with anyone yet (except when my second was born) because they're so hard to put to sleep and other reasons(they haven't been babysat much). So your story is inspiring. Any tips? dcuz

Adopting1Soon said...

It was actually a very nice break for me. I couldn't believe 5 days of not changing diapers, cutting up food, carrying 25 lbs around, etc etc was a needed break.

I did have a few pangs of missing her, and certainly wondered what she was doing at various times throughout the day, but it wasn't too bad. I knew she was in good hands.

Shawn said...

Welcome Back! I've just recently found your blog, and am so very happy I did! Thank you so much for posting about PAD. I recently returned home 1/2010 with my 8 month old daughter, and your post have hit so close to home. I thought I was losing it for a minute there. It seems like folks only blog about the very good experiences, so this took me for a loop. I appreciate your transparency because it has helped me in more ways than you know. Do you have an email address? (

Kiki said...

You know that mine go to Canada for 2 weeks every year with my parents and they do just fine. The first year it was kind of hard, and it always feels "weird" in that Virgil and I sometimes are at a loss for what to do with ourselves, but we get over that by about day 2 and we have a little adult vacation where we eat in ethnic restaurants and see movies that aren't rated G. It's a little break. I do, however, Skype them every single day so that makes it a little easier.