Saturday, February 27, 2010

What Do You Think of My Dating Profile?

I need some opinions. Please have your hubbys' and boyfriends' input, if possible. I REALLY dislike having to "sell myself", it's so awkward and I'm never sure how much is too much and how much is not enough. Here's what I have up at the dating site I have picked. Please tell me if you think it's too something or other, too bragging, not strong in certain areas. Please be honest, I can take constructive criticism as long as it's in a spirit of being helpful.

It's quite long, but on the site it's divided into different sections, so a person would read the Profile Summary and then, if interested, click on other sections to read more.

a reformed adventurer and good with chopsticks.

Profile Summary:

Anyone want to take me out to dinner? I promise scintillating conversation and semi-decent manners. I can air drum with chopsticks something mean. :-) I could tell you all about traveling the world while I grew up: getting bitten by a tiger in India (ok, it was a cub, but still); spending prom night on top of the pyramids (ok, halfway up the pyramids we got busted by the police and had to bribe them); buying a monkey for a pet in the market in La Paz (my mom made me return it immediately); scuba diving off the Sinai... among other things. It was a different way to learn about the world and grow up. Somehow I ended up terrible in geography though.

I'm 38 now and have settled in the beautiful mountains of Western ******; ***** to be specific. One of the hippest places I've found on this earth. I started rescuing dogs after Hurricane Katrina and I do that as a hobby. Anyone who is seriously interested in spending time with me will have to have a high tolerance for furry wagging butts. Love me, love my dogs :-)

If you took me out to dinner, I would most likely do a lot of listening too. See, I'm a psychotherapist as my career, but I will try my best not to analyze you. Too much.

I'm very close with my family, but they live on the East Coast so I only get to see them a couple of times a year.

I open for friendship as well as dating. I'm not open for quick flings, that is just not who I am. As for who I'm looking for, you need to have some education under your belt (world or formal), some ambition, independence, compassion is a MUST, and have a full life! The bonuses would be a sense of humor, and a job. Hope to hear from you soon :-)

PS I love to read, so I need someone who can entertain themselves at times so I can indulge in one of my favorite things...

What I’m doing with my life

I recently became a mother through adoption. My daughter is wonderful. She is smart, beautiful, and into everything. She's from Ethiopia, so I now belong to a trans-racial family.

The first things people usually notice about me

My eyes probably.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books: I read a lot of books. I love reading about people and situations I would never be able to experience. For example, lately I've read a book on the "loves and lives" of two conjoined female twins in the 1800's; the autobiography of a 70's tennis star who went through a sex change operation; a biography of Eric Rudolph; and a memoir by a serial killer's daughter.

So if you ever want a list of interesting ones, let me know.

Food: I like Ethnic foods the most. Thai, Indian, Ethiopian, Mongolian. Not so much Japanese or Chinese though.

Music: Everything from Abba to Zappa. I still have a lot of vinyl. Bowie is a fave. So is Parliment/Funkadelic.

Movies: I went to film school before reality hit. I LOVE movies. I spend 4 days each year at the ***** Film Festival in heaven. The Deer Hunter is an all time fave, but there are so many others....

The six things I could never do without

My dogs, my family, my super comfy bed, a library, netflix, daily massage. Oh wait. I don't have that last one at all. I guess I do without it, but I don't like it one bit.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

animals suffering. It drives me crazy.

On a typical Friday night I am

out with friends to dinner and movies, or hanging out at home. I don't do the bar thing.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I sometimes get tired of taking care of the kid, the dogs, the clients, the house, the garden....

I'm looking for someone to ON OCCASION take care of me. But not all the time, I'm fiercely independent.

You should message me if

after reading my profile you think we'd have an interesting conversation over dinner, you love animals and want them to be part of your next relationship, you are a kind and compassionate person. You can make me laugh.


Anonymous said...

I love it. I think it hits the right balance between honest and funny. The one line I'd leave out is the promise not to analyze the guy, because of course you will and just saying so (that you won't) might feel like you're "protesting too much."
Of course, what I think matters not at all. I'll show the dude in the house, the big one, and get back to you.dcuz

missy said...

reading your profile just confirmed what i have suspected from reading your blog...i wish i knew you! you are SO interesting!! i think it sounded fun and funny and intelligent and interesting, like you.

the psycho analyzing part was really cute, i thought. it could be a little intimidating i guess. but i like how you handled it by adding the "too much" part.

hope this is a fun and fruitful process!!!

J-momma said...

well i'll take you out to dinner after that! lol. i'm interested in your world traveling childhood. were you a military brat? i think your profile looks great. can't wait to read about any upcoming dates :)

Emily said...

Here's the input from my hubby - he thinks it's written more for a female than male audience, i.e. perhaps a little too direct, all on the table? He thinks guys might like to know more about what you would do with them rather than with kid and/or dogs and more about your fun side. Good luck!

Calmil2 said...

I totally love it, don't change a thing...wait there was one thing..."job" should not be optional :) I know it's a tough economy and all, but you don't want to attrack deadbeats, so I would just take that out, actually I don't think sense of humor is option either, because you are funny, so maybe just take out the optional line all together. The rest of it made me want to date you...just kidding, ha :)

Anonymous said...

Checked with hubby. His only comment was to take out the exact same line I referred to (about analyzing the guy). Otherwise, thumbs up! dcuz

Michelle said...

I love it, but my knee jerk reaction is similar to that of Emily's hubby. Let me have the man stallion read it and see what he has to say.
And you ARE cool and you ARE fun and I'm UBER glad to know you :)
And re 38...hahaha. That's not the b-day we'll shortly toast.

Mommy to the Monsters said...

I just recently put up a profile on an online dating site..I too am a single adoptive mother..your profile sounds a lot more interesting than mine!