tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post1000510794312365366..comments2023-04-06T07:26:09.995-04:00Comments on Ethiopian adoption journey: Attachment mythsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-14546214823200325262009-02-01T12:50:00.000-05:002009-02-01T12:50:00.000-05:00We read a lot about attachment issues before we ad...We read a lot about attachment issues before we adopted our son, who was three at the time (he's now almost ten). Fortunately, he has shown no attachment problems at all. He "claimed" us as his parents from the beginning. I'm glad I read a lot about it though, just to know what to look for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-30356183969091027252009-01-15T22:00:00.000-05:002009-01-15T22:00:00.000-05:00Writer Holly Schlaack provides a sharp, keen look ...Writer Holly Schlaack provides a sharp, keen look into lives of little troubled children in the foster care system. Holly Schlaack goes over successes and failures, all from her own firsthand as a long time social worker and guardian ad litem. Invisible Kids (www.InvisibleKidsTheBook.com) professional involved in the service of families and children should read and Holly's wisdom and influences could append any training program. Media accounts collided with the private citizens of system failures can find Holly's "Dozen Ways to Make a Difference" practical and inspiring.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-19685825412575764612009-01-04T20:31:00.000-05:002009-01-04T20:31:00.000-05:00yes! so true! i love that website by the way. m...yes! so true! i love that website by the way. my son is adopted from foster care. we got him at 14 months. and we had problems with attachment. he fought it as hard as he could and it took a good year for him to have a normal attachment with us. and even now (1.5 years later) something small can trigger an attachment related reaction. i actually blogged our whole story (bad and good) in November for national adoption month. you can check it out in my archives if you want. it's good that you are gaining all this insight now, cause i think i underestimated the age thing. make sure you have a good support system for yourself too. the website you listed is great for reference and ideas too.J-mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08752445363877406264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-85727629104971122152008-12-31T22:30:00.000-05:002008-12-31T22:30:00.000-05:00Wow, thanks for your input, Andrea. That must be h...Wow, thanks for your input, Andrea. That must be hard to watch, in some ways. I'm glad you are seeing improvement. Thank you for posting as I think it is tempting for all involved (myself included) to have some degree of wishful thinking on this issue, especially with a young infant. I appreciate your comment and please continue to let us know how Selamawit's attachment to you develops over time.Adopting1Soonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210593458643048054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-83154646528715086512008-12-31T21:55:00.000-05:002008-12-31T21:55:00.000-05:00Hi Michelle,I adopted my daughter at 26 months and...Hi Michelle,<BR/><BR/>I adopted my daughter at 26 months and I noticed that she has “Disinhibited Attachment Disorder.” She has responded to me as her mother but she fails to discriminate me as a “special person” and she shows the same or similar level of responsiveness to complete strangers. <BR/><BR/>When I’m in public with my daughter she would rather be comforted by a total stranger and she readily goes to strangers with no fear. I try to keep her confined when we are in public and I do not allow her to sit in anyone’s lap. Hugs and kisses are reserved for me until further notice. Technically, she’s still bonding with me since she has only been home for nine months. I have seen some improvement, although she still has the desire to comforted by strangers.<BR/><BR/>It’s good that you are preparing yourself for possible attachment issues because even if you adopt an infant the child may still be affected with attachment issues. <BR/><BR/>Fortunately, the caregivers in Ethiopia are very attentive to the children and they love them tremendously. I witnessed it myself while I was in Ethiopia but there is still a possibility for attachment disorders.<BR/><BR/>Keep reading and learning so you can disern any attachment issues, if any, when bring your daughter home!<BR/><BR/>AndreaQueen Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12018832077918259207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-84296271047690081602008-12-31T15:50:00.000-05:002008-12-31T15:50:00.000-05:00No, not now that I've researched it. It would worr...No, not now that I've researched it. It would worry me if I was adopting a much older child, say a toddler or older. it would also worry me if I was adopting from a country with notoriously bad orphanages where children languish and are not held. I'm confident my agency's orphanage ("house" they call it) takes great care of the kids there, and the nannies sleep with the babies, etc. I feel like I could handle the issues an infant might have now that I've read up on it and know what 'attachement parenting" looks like, what I'm supposed to do and not do, etc. I'll be blogging more on the topic as I continue to read excellent articles on it. Thanks for asking Michelle!Adopting1Soonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210593458643048054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8454146351199191506.post-3166796983671138132008-12-31T09:57:00.000-05:002008-12-31T09:57:00.000-05:00Does the idea of having a child with attachment is...Does the idea of having a child with attachment issues worry or frighten you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com